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The role of popular clinical psychology in shaping modern identity Illouz argues that psychology is absolutely central to the constitution of modern identity and to modern emotional life: Collisions and conflations are inclined to obscure the complexity of ideas and any nuances and ambiguities which may arise.

A significant characteristic of late modernity is how it has incorporated and re-produced sexual diversity. Keep in mind the approach is overly critical and takes a glass half empty look at modern love as it’s focused on the ‘hurts’ side of things. What is common to theme 1 and theme 2 whj that both love and psychological health constitute utopias of happiness for the modern self, that both are mediated through consumption and that both constitute horizons to which the modern self aspires.

An Age of Broken Glances: On “Why Love Hurts”

In other words, the Aramaic is legal and the English is therapeutic. But, Illouz asserts, there is no resulting sense of fulfilment in such a quest. When at the end of Ghost Patrick Swayze ascends to heaven, his soul at peace, leaving Demi Moore to tearfully wave goodbye, I recall leaving the theater thinking that I pity her next boyfriend.

In that ambitious intent, you need good material, and this book over-relies on internet posts and Victorian novels to prove its point. Fairy tales end at the beginning because the ending is not so enchanting. It will also be of great interest to students and scholars in sociology, gender studies and the social sciences and humanities generally.

Yet, the cultural resources that make it constitutive of the self have been depleted. A Sociological Explanation 3. It pushes the puzzle of sociology to the brink: Psychoanalysis and popular psychology have succeeded spectacularly in convincing us that individuals bear responsibility for the misery of their romantic and erotic lives. She refers to many works of classical lit A great book that shows changes in the conceptualization of love – the way it was portrayed and thus experienced in the nineteenth century and in post modernity – although the author doesn’t use the term postmodernity, only modernity which I find confusing.


All this is interspersed with cursory interruptions from the heavy hitters in sociology, critical theory, gender studies and psychoanalysis: In all of these realms, psychology established itself as the ultimate authority in matters of human distress by offering techniques to transform and overcome that distress.

Illouz argues that it is through an analysis of love that we can better understand the conditions and transformations which constitute modernity.

Open Preview See a Problem? Therefore in some deep way it is about men. Mar 14, Illkuz rated ahy it was amazing. The samples from which men and women choose a partner, the modes of evaluating prospective partners, the very importance of choice and autonomy and what people imagine to be the spectrum of their choices: It could illou suggested also that much of therapy, self-help, and coaching culture can be reduced to cultural techniques to monitor choice and make decisions in an increasingly volatile market of possibilities.

It would be interesting to read it in the light of the Metoo campaign. For when detached from ethical conduct, sexuality, as we have known it for the last thirty years, has become an arena of raw struggle that has left many men and especially women bitter and exhausted.

An Age of Broken Glances: On “Why Love Hurts” – Los Angeles Review of Books

Jan 05, David rated it liked it. These sources provide fertile ground from which she draws together and develops historical, sociological, psychological and cultural studies perspectives to illustrate and advance her points. Feb 28, Chris Tempel rated it it was ok.

The problem is not dysfunctional childhoods or insufficiently self-aware psyches, but rather the institutional forces shaping how we love. The Governesses — Anne Serre. We last about 18 minutes. Aug 27, Adam Nylin rated it really liked it. I explain that basically my problem with Stuart is getting him to whh about our problems. Mass entertainment, so much more pervasive and potent than the romantic novels that sent Emma Bovary over the edge, teaches us the lesson of perfect, temporary bliss.

One main normative assumption standing ega this work is that the loss of passion and emotional intensity is an important cultural loss and that the cooling of emotions may make whu less vulnerable to others, but makes it more difficult to connect to others through passionate engagement.


So how long can we expect it to endure in the rapidly accelerated age of texting, sexting, and tweets?

Illouz is a wonderful author who very easily conveys her ideas to her audience and leaves no room for misinterpretation. She is currently researching the experience and understandings of long-term couple relationships. For more information on this research or to take part in the study, please visit the project website: Which first of all, Marx was obviously a lover lov spent a good portion of his writings on material things that ruined love, but hurs.

Furthermore, the author herself proclaims that this book is not relevant for all women implicitly excluding men? There are many fine qualities to commend this book and it is highly readable; but there also some significant problems with the underlying argument and the way that it is advanced.

Why Love Hurts – Eva Illouz

You are currently using the site but have requested a page in the site. You have to think about what the author wants to say, you have to be the same as the persons who were interviewed.

This interdisciplinarity serves to enliven and enrich the text but it does lend a sense of superficiality to her argument. Here a sociologist and feminist deconstructs why so many people are so obsessed with romantic love, and so depressed and insecure when disappointment ensues. hurtss

Both love and rationality have been rationalised. Marriage keeps slipping down the statistical slope. But in our day even first love is not easy, either.

Join our mailing list to receive news from Uhrts Stop: It is not that different sources and perspectives cannot productively talk to one another and their fusion shed new light on phenomena; it is the pace at which such associations are forged which tends to undermine the approach. Illouz juxtaposes this with a modern culture of commodification that has rendered sexuality the currency of mate selection while sexual product pushers like the cosmetics industry laugh their way to bank.

Also, since we live in an age or greater and greater self-blame for failed relationships especially in womenthis kind of discourse is particularly harmful, the author argues. Additionally, Illouz illustrates how capitalism and it market ideal has transferred over to relationships.